Holidays are no longer joyful
I know a lot of you have read my prior blogs and I know it's bad but I want to vent about the holidays. I'm sick of my in-laws I don't want anything to do with them anymore. There are a few that I've already told H that I won't go anymore or have anything to do with them (long story)
My father in law is ridiculous and I'm getting sick of being around him. Since day one he has not cared about anything but SD. He had no interest in any kind of relationship with me and used to tell me he had no sympathy for me and I knew what I was getting into. After my first was born it was all about SD being a big sister and when my second was born it was the same thing. I'm trying to make this as short as possible but now. He won't plan anything with the kids unless SD is there. He doesn't want to come over unless SD is here. If he ever does come over and she's not here he's mad that's she's not. He yells at my H for not taking SD one every day off he has.
Christmas Eve we had SD he was a very attentive grandfather that night and took a ton of pictures not only attentive but brought up BM in conversation 3 times. The next day SD went home with BM and Father in law came over. He asked where SD was twice when he knew she was with her mom then just sat around and paid no attention to my 2. My daughter asked to sleep over Pops house which is my father in law he tells my 4 year old daughter " you can come over but you can't sleep on the big bed because that's SDs bed" first of all she's 4 years old and 2nd what does it matter if she slept on the big bed SD wasn't even going to be there. Why would you say that to a 4 year old?? He didn't take her anyway. SD went away with her mom for a week so my father in law was devastated about that, left and said see you in a few weeks. I know it might sound petty compared to all the other major issues I have in my marriage but I just feel like blended families are hard enough in-laws just have to make it worse.