This is just a vent, in general. I've had issues with my step kids, and since my last post, I've ended up bonding with my step daughter and things have gotten a lot better on that front. But the step son is another story.
So his mother is something like 4 foot. She's tiny. And while she leaves a lot to be desired as a parent (can't cook, can't clean, never had a job) I feel that she does sometimes cop a lot of flak that's unfair. Her son, and now my step son (16) is taller than her and uses his size to intimidate her, push her around and he's hit her a few times when he doesn't get his way. Now four years ago when his parents separated, she entered into a relationship with a guy that her son didn't like, and he'd have nothing to do with him. So his mother ended up turning around and telling her son to get out her house and she doesn't want him. So naturally he's hurt over that and obviously took offence.
So he's been living with his father and I. Now MY problem with him is that he does nothing. Absolutely nothing. Sits on his Xbox and phone all day and refuses to do anything else. Not even his given chores and won't offer to help with anything. He also got into the habit of making a filthy mess Everytime someone cleaned, eats everything nice, wastes everything etc. He also doesn't know how to use a screwdriver, can't change a lightbulb or use a cheese grater. Basic life skills, he can't do any of them. Not one.
I got annoyed with him, and now my mother is accusing me of being an evil stepmother and being the same as HER stepmother who was both physically and emotionally abusive. I have never raised my hands against any of my partners kids or yelled at them, so I don't get it. I really don't. My own backstory is really long and depressing and I'm not sure it's even relevant? I don't know