Graduations and SPs
I have two teen SDs. They're 17 and 19. So the topic of graduations comes up every now and then in my life.
I also know that many stepparents have strong feelings on this. Being invited and included in these sorts of things is discussed in detail here.
From what I've seen with my own graduations and that of sd19, it's just not possible for everyone to be included in everything. Many schools only give each kid so many tickets. So in some cases, SK might not be intending to slight sp, but after they've invited their mom, dad, grandparents, etc, they might not have enough tickets for sp. My sd19 didn't have enough tickets for me to go. You know what? That was ok with me. I didn't let it get to me. She and I made fun plans to celebrate on our own. We had a great time. Her dad, sister and grandparents were there.
If you and your dh want to insist on going to every function together, good for you. But just remember it might not be possible as they only give each kid a certain number of tickets.
Whew! That said, if there weren't enough tickets for SK to invite you, what would you want them/your dh to do?