To Go Back to Court or Not...?
About a month ago BM moved about 30 minutes away. Different town/county. Just far enough that she "can't" get SD to school in the mornings. No, she didn't ask for court's permission before the move. However, there wasn't anything about moving in their last CO. Zero guidance.
Well, with COVID, we have been either full-remote learning or in school 2 days a week. This has worked out so far and hasn't affected 50/50 custody. SD starts back to school FULL TIME next week. I have a feeling SD will be living with us during the weekdays now and only going to BMs on the weekends, all because she chose to move in with the new boyfriend.
Even though DH has final decision for education, BM has asked in the last month "Can SD just move up here with me and go to middle school up here? You know, since you have a baby on the way and stuff too. I just don't think you can handle both." *roll eyes* DH basically told her no. Not without a fight at least.
I guess my question is, should DH even bother putting up "a fight" in court? Should he try to work some sort of agreement out with BM outside of court? If SD had it her way, she would 100% pick to live with BM. I'm not sure how much a pre-teen would have a say/weigh in court. DH doesn't plan on making the "first move" for court.
BM is not MOTY on paper by any means. She constantly moves in with new boyfriends and SD has poor attendace on her "time." However, she has been the master manipulator for judges in the past, crying crocodile tears that "she's trying her best and making a good faith effort to becoming a better mom." *eyeroll*
Thoughts on what would be the best "move" for DH? Advice needed!
Sidenote: I haven't voiced ALL of this to DH, but I honestly feel if SD will be "happier" living with BM, then he should let her. As much as that probably hurts him. Maybe give her some sort of conditions like, if you keep your grades above ____. I feel like DH battling BM over a SD that doesn't want to live here anyway, will only further their strained relationship and cause resentment from her. DH has said "I know, I'm the bad guy in SDs eyes, but she will realize some day that I'm doing what's best." I just don't know if I agree with that last part. I've just been sitting back and watching this all unfold like :-O