general question for you all
I posted a much longer question in the mens forum, but want to get some brief input from you all on this forum, including women.
I am a divorced father of a pre-teen boy. Dating a widow for about 5 months with two young boys. We all get along. For those who married someone with kids, what kinds of questions do you think I should be thinking about? Are you happy overall that you are a stepparent? How long have you been dating prior to marriage?
Son gets along very well with GF and her two kids. GF gets along well with my son. Obviously, I get along well with GF. Her kids can be a big pain in the ass though...I am not sure if it is due to their young age (a young 4 and 6) or if they are psychologically scarred due to having lost their father or if they will grow out of it and be a total joy this time next year. I do not remember my son being as difficult as they are, but I might have blinders on.
If I end up marrying her, I will adopt her boys, and I will be 100% committed to her and the kids, but I am trying to make sure I am making the right decision. I am not even thinking about marrying her real soon, but it has been five months, and I do not want to string her along since the boys are getting attached to me.
Any general pointers and your stories would be very helpful.