As you can tell from my screen name I am a father with a bs15 and a bs8. I have been married to my second wife for about 2 years. My wife does not have any kids and is having a very difficult time trying to find her place within the house. The relationship with my ex is good and there is no fighting. Everything is agreed upon and everything is done with the best interest of the kids in mind. The issue is that my wife is having a big problem adjusting to being a stepparent. She doesn't feel a connection with the kids and has come to be resentful for the fact that WE will never have a family of our own...there will always be the extension of my previous family. To top that off we don't have a child together so she feels like an individual in the house instead of part of the family. We discussed having a child together a couple of years ago but she decided against it because, she now tells me, that primarily she didn't want to bring a child into this situation. This has led to her resentment of my kids. This has now compounded and is affecting our marriage. I have tried everything I can think of from talking, participating in counseling, trying to promote more interaction, and then letting herself have her space to no avail. She is now in counseling by herself and has had 3 sessions. I have realized that I can do nothing to control how she feels and have not blamed her but tried to help her. That is why I am here...soliciting any advice. Thank you in advance.