Thanks all - I have been on this site for about a year and a half. Earlier this year, I posted that I had filed divorce papers and was granted a no contest ruling. I misfiled one paper that put things on hold. In the meantime, DH talked me into working things out. After posting the past couple days and confronting DH about not contributing to the household, plus his brat's horrible behavior (second visit to MY home after apologizing for calling me the "c" word and getting a second chance), I told DH that we are THROUGH. I filed that last divorce paper.

I have a great job, a house, and don't have any real financial issues so the money thing wasn't really at the forefront of my mind. However, once I confronted DH about spending the money he had coming on a laptop and Xbox for his son and BM's nephew for Xmas, instead of contributing to bills (did I mention he has contributed a total of about $2,000 in two years?), he gave me some song and dance about how he is trying his best. BS - if you were, you would have offered the money to me to cover bills. He is using me. At this point, even if he weren't, the thought of dealing with his ex wife and brats for the rest of my life makes me ill.

Bottom line - I am an IDIOT no longer. Thank you.