Don't want to be around FDH's family!!!!
I can't be the only one who loves my FDH so much and at the same time, can't stand his family. He is so different from his family, so much that I was shocked when I met them. His mom seemed super nice at first but in all reality, she is two faced and doesn't listen to anything I say. There have been multiple times that I tell her SS can't have soda or candy or whatever, and she doesn't listen and gives it to him anyway. She goes by BM's rules for him, rather than FDH and I's rules. His grandma is HORRIBLE. She is honestly the rudest person I have ever met. The first time I met her was at SS's second birthday party, which I planned and did everything for. She grabbed me by the back of the neck and said to me "you know you'll never be SS's mom right? Why are you trying to be? FDH and BM are his parents, not you." I looked at her, said "I'm just trying to make sure SS has an awesome day, that's all," pulled away from her and didn't speak to her the rest of the party. In addition, at SS fourth birthday party, she walked into MY home, looked at MY dog, smacked him in the ribs with her cane, and then used it to push him away from her. Now, my dog does have a tendancy to jump up on people for attention, he's a two year old puppy, who was only 1.5yrs at the time. THIS TIME, he wasn't even paying her any mind. He was sniffing to the table of presents and facing away from her. I scooped him up, looked her in the eye and said "are you f*cking kidding me?!" and walked back to my room where my parents were. I was in tears and two seconds away from telling everyone to get the hell out of my house. They calmed me down and said that my dog was fine, which he was. The rest of the party she complained about the food, the cake I made, the presents he got (all too expensive) blah blah blah. FDH has two sisters and a total of six nieces and nephews he doesn't get to see because there was a big fight (before we met) and they no longer speak to his parents. I recently found out that the reason for this is that FDH's dad, who is not his sisters' father, molested them when they were younger. This honestly was not surprising to me because his dad does awkward things on a regular basis. On multiple occations, I've moved away from him when his hand lingered on my lower back for too long, or when his hands on my shoulders became too much for me to handle. I'm teaching SS, and will teach my future children, that it is YOUR body, and no one can tell you what to do with it. My parents never forced me to kiss/hug any family memeber/friend if I didn't want to, and that is how I am with SS. Your body, your rules.
That's all a lot. I know. But honesty, there's so much more that would take DAYS to type. And what's crazy is that FDH is NOTHING like his family! It's like he was adopted or something!
My FDH just texted me and said that his mom is having a get together for mother's day and asked if we could go. I told him that I did not mind if he went, but I would not be going, I told him that I don't feel comfortable around his family, but he was more than welcome to go. He said I was going to start a really big fight if I was serious. I wasn't rude at all, like I could have been. I just told him I didn't feel comfortable going because I don't feel like part of the family, nor do I consider them my family. Plus, my dogs are not allowed over at their house so I want to spend mother's day with my only babies.
Am I out of line on this one? Or would you guys do the same?