Do you think this is a good idea or not?
While DH supports the majority of the househould financially (since he has 2 teen sons with Ex), I do contribute as well. Plus I contribute extras for all of us for entertainment and vacation expenses, etc... SS19 will be going to college this Fall. DH told him he must go full time and then he can stay at home for free as DH will support him. Otherwise he is to work full time and pay room and board. As I contribute the home (and to both SS to some extent), I thought DH should have a quick family meeting and sit us ALL down together to reinforce it will be "we" who will support him as he goes to college full time (must always take a full class load) otherwise and work full time and pay rent. My reasoning is to reinforce that we are all a family (and that DH and I made decisions together) and that they are supported by me as well (fyi...their BM contibutes ZERO towards them and rarely sees them). Since most skids neglect to realize a stepparent contributes to them as well, and I feel sometimes his sons keep me on the "outside" since we don't share DNA, I thought it would be a good idea to do this to reinforce my place in this family and that DH and are always a "team". Whether or not SS19 will ever appreciate my contbirution, he will at least be reminded that I am not just an irrelevent adult living in this house, and that I am a contributing "parent".