Do you think a 20 yr old SD would want to move up to live with us?
So SD (20) lives 3 1/2 hours away with her mom and her mom's boyfriend. She goes through times where nothing is going right, but yet is so vague with us about when the problem is. Mostly drama due to her with boys and school. Friends talking behind her back, her manager hates her, her coworkers are mean to her, a guy she was dating saw texts from other guy friends and got jealous and broke up with her. See my previous post about her being in a "civil union" with another guy who is dying and she promised she'd marry, which is just talk we found out. She was probably high or drunk when she wrote that. We aren't sure if she's returning to school this semester or not since she's been vague about that as well because she has anxiety and isn't sure what she wants to do. She is working as a barista at Starbucks, at least she was up to last month when she visited, but she said she hated it (due to her manager hating her) yet she's been there 6 months or so.
But H is sure he can "fix" her and enlighten her and help her find out who she is if she moved up to be with us. Honestly, I don't want the drama that she brings. Practically every visit there's always such drama, from either her raising her voice at H or vice versa or just mopey and moody. And if she does raise her voice to H, he gets offended, gives up and just goes into the other room. A lot of good that does! Moving her up here, in my opinion, isn't going to change her outlook. She can basically do the same thing here (be a barista, hem and haw about college, and brood about boys) just as she can down there. Except she has no friends up here. Her best friend is down there. And I can't see H motivated to really help her because he's got issues himself. I am thinking that as much as he would like her to live here, that she wouldn't give up all her friends there to do that.
What is your opinion? Do you think if he actually has a talk with her about coming up here, and of course making it seem like all her dreams will come true, that she would leave her life and friends there to come here? She always gets so bored when she comes up for a weekend or a week long stay that I can't see her wanting to come here unless he really makes it seem awesome.