disengaging from SS12
Hi All, im looking for some advice on disengaging from SS12yr. Ive started the process of disengaging from the SS for my own sanity, as he has no respect for me, my home and my belongings. Currently the SS is not allowed in my house if his father isnt present, nor will i supervise, do any running around for the SS, nor do i help/comment on anything to do with SS schooling/behaviour or discipline (lack of it should i say!). I wanted to hear advice from other step parentst who have had to do the same thing and what the outcomes were and what they did. Do i cook the SS dinner while im cooking for the rest of the family ? he refuses to eat the same foods so hes alwasy been catered for by bio parents . I feel i shouldnt be catering to fussy eating and if dad wants to spend his time cooking mash and sausages every night after work , then so be it. Am i fair saying this ? Do i stop folding SS clothes when they come off the washing line and leave for his father to do? I find it extremely hard to even be polite to the SS , even if thats all thats required from me,,,,the other night i heard him mocking me while i was talking ,, its hard to even be in his presence . need some advice please.