DH not being fully honest with SS14 Psychiatrist
So SS14 has been diagnosed with a number of mental health issues from ADHD to oppositional defiant disorder. Both BM and DH meet together with SS14 every two weeks either with the Psychiatrist or social worker. Now BM herself is on a Cocktail of different medications and pushed the same for SS14 at a early age. BM feels medication can fix everything. DH does not feel this way. YES DH got second opinions MANY times for SS14 treatment plans but the Psychiatrists and social workers never changed anything.
So when they all meet up for SS14 therapy appointments DH is not alway honest to the doctor. What I mean is DH will NEVER tell the therapist anything negitive about SS14 behavior at out house.SS14 punched DH in the face just because SS14 did not like what DH said. This is not the first time SS14 has hit DH. This was never told to therapist or BM. SS14 is prone to violent temper tantrums if he does not get his way. DH has NOT Punished SS14 in over 4 years as DH is afraid SS14 will flip out(which he would) and break something or go running back to BM refusing to come back over. When the therapist asks DH how SS is doing DH always says very good even when SS has been a Monster.
Now why does DH keep this stuff from the Therapist? The main reason is BM is always looking for an excuse to drug SS up even more. DH is afraid if he tells the doctor this the doctor will put SS on even more meds. DH feels he is protecting SS.
Now I agree with DH about BM but I also feel DH should not be holding information about SS negative behavior back from the therapist either. Thoughts??? Is DH doing Serious harm to SS14 by suger coating what's going on at our house to the Therapist??