DH just shared a and his text
Sd16 asked if DH could bring dd17 and dd18 to dinner with her on Thursday. DH said he could ask (which i hate him asking because DDs will make up excuses or just agree to go to not hurt DH's feelings) then he offered the idea of her coming over for dinner (which in my mind would be better, so that if anyone has had enough, they could just leave and go to their rooms).
I told him, i thought that would be the better choice, but also reminded him that "She has to learn that her behavior has real world consequences. This time is it pushed her relationship with everyone past the breaking point... it can be mended, but it's going to take time. I know you want water to go under the bridge, but she has to build the bridge first." That's exactly the wording i used (i copy and pasted from my text with him.
He hasn't responded, i hope he took it well, i feel that i was being very delicate with his feelings but still got my point across...