DH just got a phone call from BM
So apparently BM called DH because sd just got labwork done (she's been in and out of different drs for at least 5 years)
She's had her thyroid checked (lab work and ultrasound) several times and nothing has changed, but now this new dr thinks she has cushings...
She's had her hormones checked several times as well as has had her uterus and ovaries CTed, ultrasound and XRayed over and over again, and nothing has ever changed... but this new dr thinks she has PCOS
I reminded DH of all these tests sd has done and nothing has ever changed in the past, and that I highly suspect BM is just REALLY wanting something to be wrong with sd.
Oh and BM works in the same practice as all these drs sd has seen (including this one) so just because BM says "the dr thinks this" doesn't mean it's true, BM could literally just be offering ask these tests herself.
Oh and when i reminded DH of
Oh and when i reminded DH of all these times sd has seen a dr and the dr does all these tests, he acted like he doesn't remember all these things.
Eta- BM is also the one who pretended to have cancer when me and DH first started getting serious
this will sound kind of weird
this will sound kind of weird but maybe make a paper list of the tests she's had w/ the results? sometimes that helps
My SO's brother's ex is like
My SO's brother's ex is like this. The thing that makes me know this woman is full of sh!t is that she uses every appointment and every test as an opportunity to crow about it to anyone who will listen, and collect sympathy, attention, and offers of "help." Her daughter never ended up with any disease, either.
https://www.webmd.com/mental
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/munchausen-by-proxy
Yep.
Nothing a long prison sentence won't at least push the risk to these kids out for the duration of the inmates incarceration.
It can't be long enough.
My SS18 has been (probably
My SS18 has been (probably still is) a victim of munchhausen by proxy. BM would claim he has all these rare diseases that he doesn't have. She would doctor shop and all the reports would read "Mother states that child ____" and she would eventually figure out what needed to be said to get these diagnoses.
We used to follow up, get doctors to talk to each other, explain that she created false family histories, ect and then next thing we would know the doctor would report that the issue was "Resoloved". But then she would find a new doctor and we had to start over again. Once he was 16, we sat him down, showed him his actual family medical history, got his 1/2 brother's parents on the phone and had them explain what she said about him was false and told SS he was going to have to advocate for himself. That is isn't sick. That nothing is wrong with him.
It was insane what she put this kid through. When he was 11 we were on a cruise and right before he left she told him he had a heart condition that could kill him. So here is this 11 yr old crying at the top of a water slide, afraid to go down because his heart will race and he will die.
The only way to make this stuff stop is for the kid to tell the doctors that they are fine, feel fine, and mom is overly dramatic.
I am a fan of a law suit brought by the kid against the toxic
parent. In the case of a minor child, the suit should be brought for the child by the quality parent.
Make it painful, make it expensive, and make damned sure it gets full coverage in the toxic parent's community.
Sd is 18 and LOVES the idea
Sd is 18 and LOVES the idea of these things bring wrong with her.
Sure she does- because it
Sure she does- because it makes her "special", people have to help her, she can be the center of attention! Her mom has convinced her of all of that too!
Exactly 100%
Exactly 100%
So did my YSD.. .. until she
So did my YSD.. .. until she found she had a REAL issue.. seizure disorder.
Now she is on a daily medication for life most likely.. and suffers migraines that are likely wrapped up in what causes the seizures in the first place.
(her earlier maladies were not head related.. it was things like having "chest pains" at 11 yo.. that required expensive heart scans.. etc..)
and.. yes mother leaned into these diagnosis
Sd did get diagnosed as
Sd did get diagnosed as diabetic and is on metformin now... which I'm sure is due to all the simple starches she over indulges herself with, on the daily.
Is she overweight?
Many T-2 diabetics are. For many, the diabetic condition as a T-2 can be eleminated via weight loss and a low CHO eating regimine.
I am a 42+ year T-1. Weight loss and low CHO are key to my health as well, though once a T-1, always a T-1 which also means a life time of insulin injections and blood tests. Technology can certainly help, but.... needles are my friend. The alternative potentially is horror beyond measure. Blindness, amputation, neuropathy, etc....
Which is not my thing. I like life to much to not do what I can to manage my disease.
I hope your SD gets her head in the game and takes care of herself.
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I recommend that your SD get a copy and learn about her disease.
diabetes-book.com
Sorry Rags but you can't get
Sorry Rags but you can't get rid of T2 diabetes but you CAN send it into remission (they call it 'reversing" diabetes). However, you need to maintain the situation all your life or your diabetes will come back. You might find the following BBC video interesting - it's called "Fixing Dad' and is a real life story about how one man's family brought him back from the brink of diabetic self-destruction via food and lack of exercise.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghSkYZu0tvI
Eleminated... but... not cured is possible for some T-2s.
It will remain eleminated for many. The main common denominator are those who maintain healthy weight range. Someone who improves their health and weight to the point of not testing as a diabetic with their BG or A1c likely will only maintain that status if they keep a healthy weight. Weight and insulin resistance are directly proportional in the majority of T-2s.
As I understand it anyway.
T-1 is not reversable.
Sd did get diagnosed with
Sd did get diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. She isn't going to take any advice. She gorges herself on simple starches. She ate her brothers ENTIRE birthday cake, she eats any and ALL left over rice in the fridge, she ate an entire 3lb bulk bag of gummy worms.
THis totally blows my mind.
THis totally blows my mind. BM is shopping around for expensive doctors and expensive tests to try and find some imaginary ailment for her daughter (no doubt with much wailing and wringing of hands - Poor me! My poor daughter!) when her daughter already has a very real diagnosis of a very real and very serious condition... and BM is doing absolutely EFF ALL about it!
Haven't they ever heard of diabetic comas?
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/diabetic-coma/symptoms-ca...
I absolutely believe the
I absolutely believe the munchhausen by proxy idea. But i do think it could also just be BM's way of saying "its not my fault she's like this"
Sd is:
overweight (from over indulging with food, binge eating, being lazy)
Sd is over emotional (from her I'm a victim mentality)
But BM wants to blame her thyroid and pcos, which no dr ever found issues with previously
Is DH allowed to bring the SD
Is DH allowed to bring the SD to a doctor's appointment or at least be there too at one that the BM takes SD to? That's where I would start. This way DH is hearing from the Dr's themselves and not second hand knowledge.
If BM fights the DH from attending then you know and it's time to start the process of possbily removing the SD from the BM's home and get SD into counseling immediately. The repercussions are many more years of mental instability because of what the BM is doing.
DH never knew when these dr
DH never knew when these dr appointments were, and since he has no medical rights to her, only BM, there was not really any fighting it. Now sd is 18 and really needs NO parents with her in these appointments, but BM is still attending all these appointments because BM keeps her do infantile
Dup
Dup
Sounds JUST like Toxic Troll BM
Sd23 Feral Forger used to think she had a heart issue (just like her momma) and thinks she had asthma (except she didnt) and now thinks she has lupus imaginaria (yeah right).
BM loves loves loves Drs and specialised illnesses. Its for attention, and victimology and "poor me".
The Imaginaria ailments are amazing in their frequency.
My brothers MIL has suffered from a series of these ailments for decades. Starting with what my brother "Dx'd" as Fig My Imagia. She was convinced she had Fibro Mialgia, though with no actual doctor Dx'ing it.
My personal medical ignorance pet peeve are those who think they know what they are talking about but wouldn't know their ass from a hole in the ground. Particularly the masters of Diabetes who advise that their cousin's brother's uncle's best friend's sister's husband cured his Type 1 diabetes by eating some rare herb while shaking a water bottle dancing and chanting around a bonfire made of dehydrated petrified extinct wooly rhino poop and now no longer has to take insuline.
Once when a fell in her face
Once when a fell in her face at our house ( trying to do a hand stand) we sent her home to bm (explaining what happened) BM rushed her to the emergency room, which told her it's just a bruise + carpet burn. The next time sd was over she kept spouting off that she almost broke her "eye sock". I handed her a sock and told her, don't worry, here's another one. She also (to this day) insists that DH is to blame for a (size of a grain of rice) scar on her knee insisting DH should have taken her to go get stitches. BM is OVER THE TOP always rising as in and out of ERs and urgent care and drs and specialists. She's always been insane. I think she may be struggling because sd is going away for college, and this is her trying to ensure sd always has to come back for more tests and drs appointments. It's kinda sad, but makes me sick.
I swear you have the same BM
I swear you have the same BM and SD that i have... maybe just in another time line lol! Everytime you post/ comment I'm like "OMG THAT HAPPENED TO ME TOO!"
Asthma-ginarium
One time, as SD23 Feral Forger was about 16 ishy, she was insisting she needed an inhaler. Husband had her mow the lawn on a hot day. Breathing fine, no inhaler.