Desperately seeking advice from this great group. BD disowned child.
When BD16 was 14 yrs old she had a HUGE fight with BD(EX) and his wife. Problems had been building for over 6 months and finally exploded one night. This happened over 2 years ago and she has not been back to see her father and he has not reached out to her to try and mend anything. Up till 2 years ago BD16 was going over to BD's every other week with shared custody. EX and I also have BD13 that still goes over to EX's house every other week. When all this happened I reached out to my ex(not easy as we don't get along) to try and fix the broken relationship between older BD and my ex but he basically said the ball is in her court and she needs to apologize. Trying to get a teen to apologize first when they feel abandoned and hurt well good luck. At this point I got the court involved as he and his wife was starting to talk negative about older BD to younger BD and I feared they would try and turn younger BD against older BD. In court my EX "acted" like he cared and wanted a relationship with older BD but my attorney said he only "played nice" because he had to infear the court would take younger BD away from him if he did not. The court recommended therapy for older BD and ex which he agreed but two years later he still has not done it and unless the court forces him to I guarantee it will never happen. Older BD will go to therapy she already said so. Ex has not in two years called even on older BD's birthday. We all went to a sporting event for BD12 and both my EX and his wife walked right by older BD16 without even looking at her. My younger BD said they(EX and wife) sold all older BD's bedroom furniture and turned her bedroom into a gym/office. Older BD16 acts like she does not care but I know she does. Younger BD12 will come home from xmas from ex's with gifts or fun vacations and that has to hurt older BD16. I have so much anger towards my ex that he could just throw away his child. Should I try and get the court to force him to go to therapy with older BD to try and fix this? Would they even do that? As much as I hate my EX I still feel BD needs him. I fear if this does not get fixed before she turns 18 it may never get resolved. Advice? Suggestions?