Custody Agreement Rant
S/O and BM are finally divorced and they both agreed to a basic custody agreement. The agreement says that every other weekend BM is to have FSD Friday after BM is off work (which the time is always up in the air because BM claims to not know her schedule beforehand, I call bullshit) to Sunday at 5pm. The weekend FSD is to be with s/o BM is to have her two days of her choosing during the week and she is supposed to tell him a week in advance but of course she doesn't. Simple right? The agreement started Aug. 2nd and neither BM or my s/o are following it. I frustrates the crap out of me because while I realize communication between the two of them is sometimes necessary, I think that deviating from the agreement they BOTH signed off on, creates moments for unnecessary communication. I don't understand why either party would agree to an arrangement that doesn't work for them. Am I wrong about thinking that they COULD have come up with an agreement that worked for both of them during mediation? My s/o and I got into yet another fight because he's choosing to deviate from the custody agreement. This weekend is BM's weekend with FSD. So s/o has to be there by 5pm Sunday to pick up. Instead of just doing that, he's deciding to deviate and pick her up at a different time which of course means communicating. All I asked was WHY? WHY WHY WHY? I didn't get an answer. He just kept saying that things aren't black and white and that the agreement is not set in stone. That just bring me back to WHY? WHY did you guys agree to something you knew you wouldn't adhere to? Even if BM doesn't tell him in advance what her schedule is, why does that mean that HE doesn't hold up his end of the agreement. I want to pull my hair out.