Contact with EX & SD9 only while I’m not around!?
It seems as if my SO only has contact with the EX & SD9 while I’m not present. He typically will reply or answer if it’s his weekend with the SD9 for the EX. I don’t find this normal. He says he does this because he knows how I will respond or he just don’t tell me for that reason when he talks to her.
Last night I confronted him about having a discussion I wanted to be present for (I told him!) and it turned into a huge argument. I looked at phone record prior to saying something and there was an incoming call from EX phone for 5 minutes and then a call out for 6-7 minutes. So that just topped the cake for me. I couldn’t not say when he asked what was wrong!
Needless to say the argument progressed and told me he couldn’t have a relationship with SD9 because of me. It crushed my heart! How he’s tired of living like this. It always seems like a fight when it comes to SD9.
Little History: I only have contact with SD9 when he has her. I can’t have a typical relationship with her. The mom only needs help from SO. It’s like I’m secluded from everything. After being in this relationship 5 years I have yet to step foot in her school, attend any sport functions, doctor appts, take and drop her off (without SO!) etc