The compliments make me cringe.. VENT
Hey all. I'm a 32yo female and let me preface this by saying I LOVE my job. It's a small business in the construction field, I'm a manager within the office, and do a little bit of everything. They are wonderful owners, pay me well, and it's a great working atmosphere. I've been here 3 years.
I'm sort of like the 'office therapist'. Everyone comes in my office to vent, get advice, whatever.. I guess it's the mom vibes I put off since I'm a mom IDK. One of my male co-workers, mostly in the field but sometimes is in the office, and he compliments me every time he's in the office. Whether it be my hair, my outfit, my clothes, my dang eyebrows, anything and everything. He comes in my office and vents as well and he is very easy to talk to, a very nice guy. But, sometimes the compliments become too much. Like "its such a relief to come into the office and see a beautiful woman", or he will stand at my office door and just stare at me, trying to make small talk when I am obviously working and I'm ANNOYED because WHY tf are you staring at me?! I don't mind them venting to me about work problems or things of that naure, but he CONSTANTLY wants to vent about his marital issues and how much he hates his wife.
I'm a good listener so I just listen, and if he asks me for advice, if I can give it I will, if not I tell him "I'm not sure". Keep in mind, this man is my father's age, I am not nor will I ever be attracted to him. I'm happily married.
Once, he asked me how old I was, I tell him and he thinks of the difference between our ages, and says "dang so even if I was in my 20's before I got married, you'd still be a minor and I still couldn't have a chance".. I'm like WOAH DUDE.. Chill.
So I think I'm a 10, I'm very confident about myself, the way I walk, talk, very confident right.. but things like this just make me so uncomfortable, like just to crawl into a hole and not be bothered by anyone.