Child blurting out bad things
I have an 11-year-old SS, very sweet and bright but he's quite socially delayed (diagnosed ADHD & suspected high functioning ASD). He loves myself, mu DH & BM (who has him weekends).
What worries me is occassionally he'll blurt out horrific/exaggerated/out of context things out of the blue in front of teachers, strangers, doctors, etc. At a school meeting he said that Daddy threw his Ipad against the wall and smashed it. He said in front of people from a cottage we rented "Remember when you said you were going to kill me??" Which he was well aware I did jokingly and we both laughed at the time, but in front of strangers and out of context it made me look like a monster.
Last night he blurted out in front of my parents that his mother "Threw him into the wall and seriously injured him". DH & I know the story, two years ago he was throwing an aggressive tantrum and she pushed him and he accidentally fell. She was in tears over it, but it was an accident. My parents get this, but they are both retired CAS workers and warned me that if he said this in front of a teacher/doctor etc. CAS would have likely been called for an investigation.
We've wanted kiddo of the potential consequences of his actions, but then again, we don't want to dissuade him from speaking up if someone really hurt or threatened him. I'm not even entirely sure why he blurts these things. Attention? Anger? Thoughts?