Calling Steps with Experience with ADHD, kids and school issues
SS12 was never a great in school regarding doing HW or just Focusing on getting his schoolwork done but this year he’s been Horrible. He is currently failing 50 percent of his classes. NOT for poor test grades BUT for refusing to do his HW. SS is now in the habit of lying when we ask if he’s done a certain Assignment by saying either he forgot the work at school OR he already completed it. There is no real way to tell if he’s lying till days later when either the teacher emails us or it says “missing” on the school website. He will also lie to the teachers when they ask him for a due HW Assignment by saying he left at home we are in reality he never even started it.
SS has a IEP program in school already and it’s not so much he’s “ Struggling” with the HW as he just does not want to do it.
The last month or so he’s been staying after school in a HW program which he HATES. The last two times he refused to do any work as he was pissed that we are making him stay after school( SS told us this). I don’t know if we need to stick with it longer or try a different tactic.
So here is my question. With kids that have been Medically diagnosed with ADHD what works better Positive reinforcement or negative consequences?So right now we are doing Negative consequences by making SS stay after school something he hates because he’s not doing his HW. Postive reinforcement would be tell SS if he gets all his HW done during the week we would take him to the store to buy a small gift or give him money. The Positive reinforcement I honestly see working BUT I can also see SS getting into the habit of Expecting money from things he should just be doing. I also don’t want SS thinking every week till he Graduates-college daddy dearest will be paying him money to do HW.
Opinions? Those of you either with bios or steps with ADHD kids what do you think?