Calling stepparents mom or dad
I’ve noticed that a stepchild calling a SM “mom” or some other variation is a hot button issue, but what about a step kid calling a stepfather “dad”?
Both of my SSs, who have only know their stepdad for 3 years, regularly refer to him as “my dad” in front of me and DH and regularly refer to “our parents” when they mean BM and stepdad. I’m not sure it bothers DH, although sometimes he does correct them. They are almost 12, so not small children. If they ever referred to me at “mom” or “my mom”, BM’s head would explode. This double standard bothers me. Why do we preference moms so much? I also feel that if one parent demands a certain amount of respect, they should offer that same amount of respect to the other parent.
I’m interested to hear others thoughts and experiences.