Bribing your child????
Halloween is quickly approaching and a few weeks ago I asked SS what he was going to be for Halloween. He became very sad, tears coming to his eyes and said “I have to be a munchkin, because mom said she would buy me a toy if I was”. Instantly, I was angered. He is 5 years old and I believe he should be able to choose what he wants to be (within reason of course) and the fact that she bribed him with a toy just makes it so much worse. He then asked me if I would buy him a different costume, and of course it broke my heart to tell him I couldn’t because I don’t want to cause issues. I told DH to talk to her about it, because SS was obviously upset by this and he just said it wasn’t worth the argument.
Then a week later I found out that she gave her older son (not DH’s child) $100 and a BB gun just so he would cut his hair, because she didn’t like it long. Again, he was really upset to cut his hair, but went through with it because he really wanted the money and BB gun.
I just don’t understand it…how can you bribe your children like that just so you are happy. I will never understand why BM will not allow her children to develop their own personalities and opinions of things. And she wonders why SS is so uncontrollable when he is with her, HELLO you won’t let me be who he wants to be.
Then to really set things off… SS got a shirt from his grandma for his b-day, it was a black shirt with a rhino on it, pretty simple. He was SOOOOO excited because he loves animals that he wore it to school. BM picked him up from school and apparently the first thing out of her mouth was, yuck where did you get that ugly shirt, that needs to go in the trash. So by the time he made it back to our house he was in full devastation. DH goes outside to get him and I could hear SS crying from inside. I couldn’t believe my ears when DH told me what had happened. And again…I JUST DON’T GET IT!!! How can you do something like that to your child? I’ll admit, some of the clothes he picks out are quite goofy…but he’s FIVE YEARS OLD, who cares what it looks like or what “brand” it is, as long as he likes it. How can you break your child’s heart like that, and tell him it’s not cool enough….ugh. I get along with BM as best as I can for SS sake, but sometimes she just makes me absolutely sick!