Boyfriend's 12 year old and 8 year old sons sleep in the room with him when they stay over.
I am not a stepmother yet, but my 18 year old daughter and I moved in with my boyfriend four months ago after dating almost two years. My daughter is away at college in another state and comes home occasionally. The problem is that he won't allow me to share his bedroom, bathroom or closet on a full-time basis until he feels his kids are comfortable. I have my own room with all my stuff in it. I gave up my own house to move into his house. The boys are 12 and 8 and they sleep in the bed with him on the weekends he has them and whenever they stay during the week as well. Sometimes I come home from work only to find that the kids are staying overnight and I have been displaced from his bed. When I agreed to move in, he said this situation would be only temporary until the kids adjusted. I should add that their mother is living with a guy and has been doing so for two years. The kids sleep in their own rooms at her house. I have tried talking to him about my frustration with the situation on a few occasions but I have met with resistance. In fact, he told me he would make me move out if he ever felt his kids were uncomfortable with me. I am asking for advice because I am ready to call it quits and move out. I do not want to start to build up resentment for these kids but I can feel that it is starting already. Any suggestions?