BM taking SD6 for christmas for the first time.. Help?
We've had custody of my 6 year old stepdaughter since she was 2. BM had visitation every other weekend, but by 3 years old, we moved away for work and BM's visitation became summers and march break. She has never really been that involved until recently (coincidentally, when we had our son 13 months ago).
This year, she asked for christmas. She lives 5 hours away, so she would be taking her from the 22nd to the 29th. We left the decision up to SD as we felt it's only fair to let her choose. She chose to go. We're kind of feeling pretty heartbroken and unsure of how to handle this going forward.
We assume she'll take every other year from now on, so how would you handle this with one biological child here? My sister in law mentioned waiting until she's home but that will be DAYS after christmas, so I'm totally not ok with that. Does anyone have a similar schedule/routine they could share?
I'm thinking our son has christmas as usual and when SD gets home a few days later, she gets to open her presents then. But then that leaves my son feeling left out, although I guess that's life sometimes.