BM meeting my H @ his work and having lunch with her, and SD? Would you be comfortable with that?
Title says it all. I pick SD up from school today (we're doing a week on/week off schedule, she is exchanged on Mondays at preschool). She announces in the parking lot that when her mommy picks her up next Monday they are going to have lunch together with daddy. I don't respond at all, and she repeats herself 5 more times to make sure I hear her loud and clear. :sick:
SD already has a really bad attitude about me and my daughter, and the fact that she has siblings and 2 separate homes. Even though her parents have been apart since she was 14 months old and my daughter and I have lived with her dad for most of her life. We're now married and expecting another baby. The attitude comes from the brainwashing BM and the questions that she gets when she's at her mothers house. "Do you like having to share your toys? How do you feel about that? How do you feel about having to share your daddy?" Blah Blah Blah... and since SD is very possessive and likes attention, she eats it up and milks it for all that it's worth. We don't have discussions like that in our home. If she starts complaining, her dad reminds her that she's lucky to have so many people in her life who love and care about her, and she will not bad mouth people in our home.
Plus, I just posted here a while ago about an incident with BM where she accused me of infecting SD's pierced ears and bringing her to school crusted with black dirt (which is absolutely untrue). She chewed my husband and I out over it in the preschool parking lot. She is a total lunatic, and hasn't exactly been the most pleasant person to deal with.
These are all reasons that I feel totally uncomfortable with the idea of them having a little "family" lunch get together. Am I being totally unreasonable? I called my husband when I got home and asked him if he had planned this without talking to me about it, and he had no idea what SD was talking about. He said he didn't see any point in it either, and that he'd never plan something like that behind my back. I feel like if BM has something important to talk to him about, she doesn't need to be doing it in front of SD anyway. If there is nothing to discuss, there's no reason for them to meet for lunch. He's married.