BM going to jail. Unsure if DH will do anything.
Per my last post, BM (36) stole oxycodone and got addicted. She has now been convicted of a felony, took a plea deal (had to do rehab, 10 years of probation, etc), and will be getting 10 days in jail. She's been cooperating with us in regards to visitation time so we never had a need to go get joint custody, however I think that's just on the horizon. I wish we would've done it sooner. I thought we should, but then it seems my DH got a little compacent. BM is really good at playing nice.
BM now thinks it's appropriate that SD (14) bounce back and forth between BM's mom and BM's boyfriend (26), who has been around a little less than a year, while BM is in jail. My SO and I have tried explaining to her that we would prefer to have SD during this time and told her that we are uncomfortable with SD being alone with the boyfriend. There is no reason for it, consdering we have all the time and resources to take care of SD ourselves. Not that we have anything against the boyfriend, but it's just not appropriate this soon into a relationship and makes us uncomfortable.
BM doesn't recognize our concerns and continues to work around us in her weird, sweet way. I'm sure she's hoping to get what she wants, which is to have SD NOT stay with us the full 10 days. She suggested only a few days, but not the full 10 days. I have no idea why. She won't say, but instead comes up with little, stupid, excuses. My DH is mad, but I am absolutely livid. I was sexually assaulted by a trusted family member when I was around my SD's age, and a lot of women I've talked to recently have a similar story about themseleves or somebody they know. The risk, however small, is NOT worth it. And besides that, DH is her FATHER and there is no reason he shouldn't be able to watch her during this really messed up situation.
So here I am, completely and utterly fired up to push for emergency temporary custody. But that needs to be done FAST because BM is planning on starting her sentence this weekend. I texted DH this morning asking him to talk to a lawyer, but he never got back to me. I hope he is, but what if he isn't?
I guess there's only so much I can do right? I feel like it might just break my heart if he doesn't do anything. I doubt there's anything I could do, being her stepmom. I try to stay out of things. But what does it say about my DH if he doesn't fight for her? Would I want to have a child with somebody that won't fight for their children?