Blocked from OSD & SKGID'S
So it's been over 3 months since OSD told DH she was blocking him (us) out of her life as well as sgkids (all because DH finally stood up to her and SIL about their games, their mistreatment of DH and especially me, the games involving BM, etc... etc.. ) Anyway for my part, I've actually been enjoying the peace
But what shocked me a little but didn't entirely surprise me, was when DH said to me the other day that if he goes to his grave and never talks to his sister again, it wont bother him!
He did say he's missing the sgkids and that's hard, but he's also not ready to be forced to put up with anyone's mistreatment of his wife or himself any longer
Every day that goes by DH says he will never forgive OSD for withholding his gkids from him and I understand his hurt...what happens after 6 months go by, 6 years, 16 years...?!
I know that OSD is angry and hurt, however unjustified IMO, and I forgive based on that. But it's hard to forgive anyone who would do this
I wonder what will happen when we see skgids again if ever, and what alienation tactics have been used against us, especially me
All of it is just so unacceptably sad
But in the meantime, how wonderful to not have to attend those family get together's where you know before you even step in the door that people won't even be able to bring themselves to say hello to you when you arrive, that they will barely acknowlege your presence, but make a point in your presence to gush about how much they just love love love your husband's ex-wife (BM), how they will sarcastically put down anything and everything about you that they can, exclude you from all conversations while have happily loud giddy ones around you that are aimed to humiliate you and make you feel an outsider. People who stomp around (SIL) with their 'disapproving' judgemental and haughty attitude.
Do I miss any of that?
Nope. Not a chance.
Gotta say I'm loving the peace, quiet and joy of just not being surrounded by negativity any longer!
And clearly DH is too
Once again, OSD did it to herself - forced our exit from her life and we honestly are enjoying the peace and non-tension
I certainly hope she is too!