Bio Mom keeping kid from visiting again!
So sorry this is so long but I gotta vent again... grrrr... the baby momma drama has began it never fails every Wednesday it starts! Bio Mom text messaged my boyfriend while he is at work once again just going off on him and upsetting him.. She said their little girl is adamant about not coming this Friday to visit her father she said her kid is already in tears and is a emotional mess and is so sick to her stomach and she is not going to force her kid to come and visit her Dad this Friday... she also said "your girlfriend is to blame for our daughter being in tears... she has brainwashed our kid into thinking she is having separation anxiety this is why she is always crying and feeling sick because it's in her head it's not real"... Bio Mom even said "I am very worried about what you guys are doing to my daughter in your house to make her not want to come there"? OMG! Are you serious? This is why I will make sure we are never alone with this kid ever again if I must I will record our visits with her! Bio Mom is so worried... but never takes the kid to be seen by a doctor or a therapist? We are nothing but good to this kid and trust me I have not brainwashed this kid... I barely see the kid! Bio mom sees her the most and has the biggest influence over this kids mind! NOT ME OR HER FATHER!
He is suppose to have his 10 year old daughter Friday and he usually picks her up from school and she spends the night and he drops her off at noon the next day. Well it has been a month now since he has seen his kid because Bio Mom is using his daughters tears and emotional state of mind as a reason to keep her from visiting her Dad. In July Bio Mom took two one week vacations that were one week apart from one another and she left the 10 year old behind and her 19 year daughter took care of her one week and mind you she has a fulltime job so the kid stayed home all week by herself... the other week she stayed with her 22 year old brother that lives on campus 4 hours away with four other guys that are in their 20's and he too has a fulltime job. We had no idea her mother was even out of the state... no communication what so ever from her. The kid calls her dad up in tears during Bio Moms last vacation begging him to come and get her saying that she has been sick all week and she told her Dad her mom was out of the state... When I picked her up she was so sick looking... distraught... nervous...anxious and he hair had not been brushed in days.. she kept looking at her phone constantly panicking every time her mom did not text her back fast enough..she would not do her normal fun things.... she did not eat anything and barely drank anything those three days that we had her. Well one week went by the kid did not come to visit her Dad and Bio Mom never took the kid to see the doctor either... the following week she came to visit again once we placed food in front of her she'd become sick crying an emotional mess fear came over her when she would look at her food and BAM she started making up excuses why she could not eat asking us if we have laxatives or stool softness... her mom tells her she is constipated. Now the kid thinks she is constipated all the time... she is so skinny always worrying that she will get fat.. we think she might have a eating disorder and maybe separation anxiety too. NOW MIND YOU WE HAVE NEVER SAID SHE HAS A EATING DISORDER NOT IN FRONT OF HIS KID! Heck we have not even told Bio Mom either because my boyfriend refuses to communicate with his ex wife.The strange thing is the kid tells us she is not like this with her mom... but her Mom is skinny and is a health nut. The kid is always having panic attacks too if her cell phone goes dead she flips out saying her mom will be mad at her! ..
Now Bio mom is twisting and turning everything around saying her kid is sick to her stomach and in tears because I have brain washed the kid into thinking she is having separation anxiety...WHY HAS THE MOM NOT TAKEN HER TO SEE A DOCTOR YET WE ARE GOING ON TWO MONTHS NOW? Bio mom and Dad ignore each others text messages to hurt one another... Bio Mom will text him every week now blaming me for the kids tears... instead of blaming herself for leaving her kid for weeks at a time alone taking care of herself... who in the World would leave their kids with a bunch of college students? I have been nothing but good to his kid! I know Bio Mom wants nothing more for Bio Dad to pick up his kid without me she is so jealous of the bond that me and her daughter have she sees it! She hates sharing her kids with their own father let alone me! Bio Mom is Narcissistic and she is a control freak and a manipulator... she has already turned the two older kids that are 19 and 22 against their father... they disowned him right after he started dating me... they have not been with me not once. I think my boyfriend needs to make up his mind and do something about this NOW... either back out of this kids life or fight for his rights to see her and most of all get his kid some HELP!
I just think it's odd that just three months ago the kid opened up to me telling that her Mom told her here soon she will no longer be visiting her Dad at all... she said I will have the choice to say no and not come. I was shocked I said what? Why would your Mom tell you such a thing? I told her why would you do this to your Dad this will break his heart she said I have a family and a home that is where I belong not here. I said but this is your second home and your Dad is your family too.... THIS MOM HAS MANIPULATED THIS KID! THIS IS CALLED PARENT ALIENATION AT IT'S BEST! WHAT MOTHER WOULD BREAK A BOND BETWEEN IT'S CHILD AND IT'S FATHER BEATS ME? A SICK MOM THAT IS NARCISSISTIC WOULD!! I am trying to disengage it is so hard... I wanna move so afr away from here!! God help me!