BF's 12 yr old daugther refuses to meet me
Joined here because this is an ongoing problem for me and hoping for some ideas/advice. I have been with my BF about 2 years, we do not live together. His daughter knows about me for almost a year. He did not tell her about me until his divorce was almost final. I am not the reason for his divorce btw. She would call me names to him,say nasty things about my kids w/o meeting any of us. I know she is insecure and understand. He has told her that is not acceptable. He goes to all her school events without me. He has her every other weekend and therefore, we dont see each other those weekends. He sees her 2x during the week so I dont see him then either. I am ready to move things forward and he says he is too. The week I was supposed to me her, she refusted to come stay with him and ex supported her decision. She is now worried she will be "ambushed". I am thinking about just moving on with our relationship, but how does it work if he moves in with me and she won't meet me? The daughter lives an hour away, so driving there all three days on the weekend is not really a good option. What about her sports activities..does he go alone and hang out with the ex with me at home and live a separate life? How do others of you in this situation work it out and deal with this and the emotions? Does your BF/Husband just lose the relationship with the kids? HELP!