are step parents always wrong or just told so?
I don't mean to be rude but I feel confused at times with being a stepparent. It seems that people go in circles here over this issue. My view with all kids in this day and age is nothing what it was like back when I was the stepkid of another. Skid or not why are kids now so protected that we are actually messing them up?? I hate saying we cause I personally have never raised one myself. My situation has became better then it was thank goodness but everytime I turned around..I was the one in the wrong I think cause I'm the stepparent. That aint right!!!
Before I was a stepparent and always wrong, kids loved me!!! Kids have quit coming over cause they fear my SD is around. Yet I'm wrong! What am I missing here? Are we wrong cause we married out of love? Are we wrong cause we wanted to be a role model at one point with good intention? Are we wrong cause we have thoughts of a human?? I'm honestly confused with the more I read and hear some people getting attacked over a question they had asked.
I wish you all would think about your answer before you jump down anothers throat. As far as I know, we have feelings too just like our Skids..am I wrong? Don't know about you all but I for one am no longer going to be a victim to my SD's abuse cause she feels robbed in life. Its what we or "you" I should say are raising your kids to be like. I use to get into trouble when I did hurt another. Why is my SD allowed such lea way after she hurt me yet I'm wrong??? WTF have we lost our heads or what????
Now if we were smart and had some of the power that our kids this day and age get...we would make a skid boot camp or something to that effect. We would have rights as we earned as adults!!! GOD BLESS EVERY STEP PARENT WHO HAS A SOUL!!! I'm not feeling sorry for myself as I expect to be accused of just so you know but I do give my skids my all and I don't care that I'm still wrong anymore...I care that others get some credit somewhere somehow someday!!!
My mom brought something to my attention today and I'd like to share it. She asked me about the folks here about a what if question..rather interesting I thought. "what if" we had our skids read this site and let them see for themselves just how lucky some of them are. I laughed at her at first. After taking that thought in for a day, it made more sense then ever to me. I mean my Skids live their life running around feeling sorry for themselves but its the stepparents that get told that they are wrong. I hate the idea cause we need this place and a spot somewhere. Problem is, we are told that we are wrong even if we ask a question at times but its the kids who live life running around feeling wronged...... If we care enough to come here seeking help even in the form of venting then why are we left feeling like we made our skids sleep out in the cold with no food or water?