Anyone feel like having skids puts a damper on your relationship with bios?
As most people here know, we have full-time custody of my 7-year-old stepdaughter whose mom is fairly uninvolved. She takes her for visitation for 2 months of the summer and that's about it. She MAY take her for a week here and there on holidays/school breaks but it's rare. Today, being mother's day, I couldn't help but feel down and upset that again, we have SD on mother's day and my time can't be devoted to my 18-month-old son.
I managed to sneakily get some time alone with him today. I told DH I would take him out so he could clean the house for me without him getting in the way, so I took him out for 3 hours, and surprisingly, DH didn't ask me to take SD too. it was amazing. Absolutely wonderful. We went to a waterpark and out to lunch afterward. We had so much fun, and it made me realize, I don't get the chance to do this often. And it breaks my heart.
I almost never get alone time with my son without SD around. I work 9-5 then my husband works 5-1am, so anytime I'm with my son, she's around. And she's always trying to monopolize the attention and doesn't show much appreciation so I don't bother taking them places because I know it won't be enjoyable with her. It just breaks my heart.
And I know it's not fair to her. Her mom is uninvolved and her stepmom doesn't enjoy spending time with her, but I can't help but feel like I wish I could just enjoy my son without her being around. Anyone else with biokids feel this way?