Am I overreacting
In the spirit of trying to encourage a relationship with SD17 now that she is communicating again after 3 months of ignoring DH, I suggested he invite her to join us for an kayak trip we took yesterday. Thursday she agreed to go, Saturday she called to cancel because her mom just adopted a puppy and SD had to watch it at the same time we were going...
We went on our trip anyway and had a great time. When we got home, we were cleaning our vehicles and DH decided to take his to the car wash. He was gone quite a while. When he got back he said he met SD's puppy. He told me all about it, how they got it, etc. I asked how SD was acting since she had cancelled. He said SD wasn't there. Apparently he went to a car wash near their house, and called BM to see if he could drop her check off (there is no court ordered child support but he has always given BM an amount they agreed on when they divorced), and SD had said he should come see the puppy. BM said SD wasn't there but to come on by.
This hit me wrong. I asked why he needed to call BM about this check, he could mail it, transfer it, etc. And then why he would need to go to her house without the kids being there. And especially all this without even mentioning to me, I thought he was just going to wash the car. I said it really bothered me that he visited with her and it felt like it was behind my back. Mainly bc she has pretty obviously been against our household and I feel uncomfortable about him spending any type of time with her. He does not get it. Am I out of line? I don't think he set out to "visit" BM but hearing about it after the fact just didn't set right.