Am I making too much of it?
I’m not married yet but here’s my issue. My soon-to-be’s family has a friend. I believe she’s a good friend of his brothers wife. The friend and him had a relationship at one point. His daughters ran in to her at a gathering a few months back and have started talking to her. He lets her pick the girls up for hanging out. The eldest child bought her a mother’s day gift because she has no children of her own. The girls don’t want me to meet her and do what they can do avoid her and I bumping in to one another. They’re went as far as driving by the house and not pulling in to the driveway because I was outside. I spoke with him and we decided that they would no longer hang out together. Yesterday after being pressured by the girls, his mother and him.. I was more or less forced to concede to letting them hang out. I believe him when he says that he wouldn’t go back to her. I still don’t want her around. I’m having a hard enough time trying to bond with his girls without this interference. I’ve made unwelcome changes to their lives. Needless to say they’d rather hang out with fun time Betty than with myself. His reasoning is this the woman does no harm to him and I, his girls like her... but mostly now it’s because his eldest says if she doesn’t get to see her friend that she might considering spending time with her mom who is a worse option for them to spend time with.