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Am choosing to move house rather than spend another minute of my life with Skids

Kasey21's picture

I accept that I walked into my relationship with rose colored glasses on. And I accept that after two years of asking for change, nothing changes! So I have packed my boxes and am moving out. Moving Christmas week you ask?? YES. If thats what it takes for myself and my daughter (and my son will be home) to have a peaceful Holiday then so be it. I give up......white flag raising after I ignored the many red flags. I am guilty of that at the start of my relationship. But when two years passes and his ex and skids are always placed first, then I am gone. I always knew that skids would have to come first but to live my life second place to a crazy, greedy BM who takes pleasure in driving us crazy, well thats what I will not do. My FDH told me last week that there will be no changes to the way he deals with all of them. OK, I said, then I am the one to make the change. Hasta La Vista Baby Biggrin

Justme54's picture

Good for you girl. I was single for 20 years before I married DH. I guess being 50 plus and dating rose colored glasses were too thick to see the light. It has been such a fight for DH to give a little...I feel very bitter.

stepnicole2010's picture

Good for you! I left 3 months ago and feel better every day. Nothing ever changed.
We only get one chance at life. Stay strong and take care of yourself.

MarriedaBallessWonder's picture

Good for you! Being a stepparent with a greedy, vicious jealous BM is the worst thing in the world!

hereiam's picture

Wow, he's not even going to pretend to try? Good for you for leaving, you deserve better anyway.

thinkthrice's picture

KUDOS!! Better you spent only two years figuring that out than many more. My cubicle mate has been dealing with this for two years as well--she's 56 years old and doesn't "get" it yet that the guy's a LOSER (Guilty Grandpa)

emotionaly beat up's picture

Well done Kasey. Have a wonderful Christmas and may 2014 bring you and your children, health, wealth and happiness. It tajes a lot of courage to do what you have done, your children are lucky to have such a strong courageous mum.

misSTEP's picture

It's really tough to do, I know. I moved out the day after Easter once. But it will be better for you in the long run and ESPECIALLY for your daughter.

lilmomma's picture

Wow!! Im so looking up to you right now....that is the kind of courage I am looking for!!! You go!!! Smile

Kasey21's picture

Thank you ALL so very much Smile Sorry for the delay in saying Thanks however I was busy, busy moving house. No sooner had my boxes landed on the floor of the new leased house that I heaved a big sigh of relief and felt a weight lift off my shoulders. My daughter was a bit tearful but once I got her settled in her new rooms (gave her the spare bedroom as a den to cheer her up), she is fine. She is 17 so not little. We put our Christmas tree up last night, my son is home and I am FREE. She told me yesterday she heard me humming and singing to myself for the first time in months. I had a nightmare that BM was again in-my-face and FDH not supporting me.......then woke up and realized I was in my new bed and in my own home and its only a nightmare. Unfortunately one that lasted for two years. I don't know what 2014 will be like but I do know I have my self respect, my dignity and myself and my daughter have a happy home. ex-FDH now wants to know "what happened?" "why are you moving out"?? WTF? Perhaps I should hire one of those planes to write it in the sky!
Merry Christmas Everyone Smile

MarriedaBallessWonder's picture

CONGRATS Kasey! And good for you for being so strong. You dodged a bullet of misery.

Wishing you a Happy New Year with lots of love and happiness!

Kasey21's picture

As the wonderful Tina Turner sang, Whats Love Got To Do With It!
I also love my exFDH but as you said so well, I love me more. Now he wants to "talk" and try couple's counseling. I will think about that one. I am still very angry and hurt and wary. But whatever happens, I will never ever live with his kids again. Dating maybe, or the odd few hours together with his kids. These guys just don't get it. They want it all, their bread buttered on both sides. :?

hereiam's picture

I am so glad you went through with it and so glad you are singing again.

Merry Christmas to you and yours.