Back in the beginning of October I posted about BM and her hubby "Doofus" thinking that SS8 has ADHD and he was currently in the process of testing, counseling, etc. DH and I did not support this theory since he wasn't having problems at our house OR at school, but DH said he was ok with the testing just to be sure there wasn't something he was missing.
Well we got the test results back and he does NOT have ADHD. BM WAS PISSED!! And it really made me sad for SS. You just found out your child does not have a disorder that can cause him to struggle in school, etc. and your immediate response was to look at DH, scream..."As usual you get your way"...and storm out. WHAT....REALLY? You're not relieved? I don't understand. Now SS didn't walk out of there with an "ALL OK-there's nothing wrong here" diagnosis. He was diagnosed with Adjustment Disorder, but BM had her tantrum before she heard that part so DH, Myself, and Doofus were the only ones still in the room to discuss what this meant and what to do going forward. But I just don't understand her reaction. Why was there not a big sigh of relief followed by, what are the next steps.
On a sad note, through counseling we discovered that BM and Doofus were telling SS that he "needed medication to be a good person" and "we are going to put you on medication so you aren't bad anymore" and again my heart breaks for this child. DH and I have been together since SS was 1 year old and even though I'm not his "real mom" I still care for him A LOT and I don't understand how they could say things like that to him.
Next step is family counseling, which will mainly focus on BM's household since that's where he is struggling the most, but we get to start with everyone together! Yay! I'm a little hesitant because I don't want it to be a huge fight, but I also want to do whatever it takes to make sure SS is getting what he needs from both households.
On another note....have any of you dealt with Adjustment Disorder? If so, what changes/steps did you take?