Adding an “ours” baby
Decisions, decisions!!! This is something my husband and I have talked about off and on for over a year. About last March we decided that because I have two (son6, daughter9) and he has one (ss5), that it’s chaotic enough and we were happy with our blended family. So my husband scheduled a vasectomy. A week ago today (one week from the surgery date) we decided that we may not be done. He has always wanted two of his own and I’d be ok having another also. I am happy with our family but I feel as though I’m not complete. Is this a normal feeling when you blend a family? I know that no one can truly say yes you should add an ours baby or no you shouldn’t but I’m looking for some advice with those who have experience. I guess I just have many fears-will this hurt my relationship with my husband, since our “us” time will be more limited, will my kids or his son feel like we are trying to replace them, what will others think of us having 4 kids all together, will the kids see it as unfair that the baby would be with us all the time and they aren’t?? There are so many questions and I’d love to hear from some of you! Thanks so much!