Addiction issues - Need advice pls!
Hello. New here! Need some advice. So, my husband has 3 boys. 16,14,10 Bio-mom has 70/30 custody (but that’s only for the support) we offer get them on her weekends. BM doesn’t work, she plays the system well. Court ordered her to get a job, she hasn’t. She has had an alcohol problem in the past and is a pathological liar. She makes the boys keep things from us in order to “protect” her. We’ve requested previously she has a random alcohol test for 6 months, she denied that. 1st sign!!! She has recently went out on a 2 week binge leaving the boys with her 80 year old mother & father! (She lives with them). Our terms are pretty good w/her parents as they have started to see right through her. Every time she goes on a binge she goes to a detox center for a few days (lies to us about it & has kids lie to us) and then thinks she is good again. She has no remorse what so ever when she does this & she is hurting her boys! She blames us getting married, the boys liking me better, and so many other excuses for these binges.
We don’t want to push her into a deeper “issue” by getting full custody but we do need to protect the boys and do not want them thinking this is ok to do. To request for an immediate change the boys have to be in imminent danger. They aren’t because it’s the house they live in and grandparents are there! Anyone else had this situation or any advice on what we can do??
weve had to block her phone number cause she calls drunk, crying and making up crazy stories about her or the kids. My husband uses a court ordered website to communicate. Please help!