Whenever you disagree with your partner they threaten to kick you out if their house and tell you to leave? It is usually over something not warranted such as a disagreement about their child’s behavior or their social media activity.  Is it abusive if they tell at you and call you a child in front of their kids and other family members for disconnecting after their kids were rude to you. Is it abusive if they allow their kids to be rude to you if they are unhappy with you and they do nothing to correct them? Is it abusive if they run to their mother (in laws) to tell them all of your problems and personal information and flaws instead of addressing things with you and keeping their parents out of it?