1st post~ I've regained my sanity..well part of it at least.
Hello! Long time reader here. A little background - Mom of DD10 & DD15, SM of SS12 & SD9, Dealing with Batshit crazy BM since 2009.
My Skids are brainwashed. BM is religious nut. Nothing wrong with a little Jesus, but this lady is Waco level insane. SS12 & SD9 have been told that I'm Satan, like literally Satan. SS will not be in the same room as me, he will not speak or touch any item that he sees me handle, SKids will not spend the night in my home & haven't since 2013. SS has resorted to sitting in the car 1+ hrs when he arrives for his 2-3 hrs of visitation and pouting that he has to come inside eventually.
You see, first of all this used to really bother me. I wanted the perfect little "blended family". I would try to be the perfect SM.. We took family vacations, we spent quality time together playing. I was the maid, chauffeur, cheerleader etc. All the while BM was brainwashing them to hate me. They started coming around less, I'd get blamed for everything, my parenting skills for my own DD's were criticized on social media, Every move we made was being reported to BM constantly. Everything down to us purchasing pizza was confessed by skids upon interrogation by BM. I was stressed, having anxiety attacks, depressed & upset...Not anymore. After reading this site for awhile, I learned to disengage-
I learned to worry about me, my DD's and my marriage. I let DH deal with the skids, crazy BM, the visitation drama & the PAS. I can't change the situation but I changed how I dealt with it. Skids still drive me crazy and I dread the visits but Im glad that I found this site!