12 yr old stepson being malicious and distructive
Hi All ,, ive joined this website as im in dire straights as of what to do about my 12yr old SS and his scary behaviour as im about to leave my relationship with his father because of this. Background - Ive been with my partner for 7yrs, i have a 17yr old son from a previous relationship and he has two sons 28 & 12 (different mothers). The two eldest boys are great young men and get along as if they were blood brothers. My partner always had full custody of the eldest boy and the mother has never been involved. The 12yr old SS however is shared custody with the biological mother 50/50 , the parents seperated before the child was old enough to know what was going on, I have been in the childs life since he was 4. The 12 yr old has always had some behavioural issues from early on ,,, stealing ,lying and manipulating,, but now his behaviour has become scary and unpredicable for me but neither one of his parents hold him accountable or he has no consequences. I own my own home which we all reside in except the eldest boy. Things have been getting worse over the last 12months with 12yr SS stealing money from me, my 17 yr old, his dad , his mum and stepdad. He lies for the sake of lying with no remorse and of late hes been maliciously vandelising my personal belongings. He is slashing my fridge with knives , scratching my cars , scratching the microwave, carving graffiti into wooden furniture with knives, he slashed my tea towel with a chefs knife, theres slash marks on my timber kitchen bench , the list goes on. He isnt outward violent or aggressive ,all of this is done in a very sly and malicious manner of him thinking no one will find out ,, which makes me very uncomfortable. Last week he went into my bedroom and stole a phone, i confronted him about this only to have his bedroom door shut on me,, 30 mins later i find dents all down the side of my stainless steel fridge. We discovered a secert instagram account he had that consisted of all school fighting videos and private messages he had been sending to girls asking for pictures (remember hes only 12!), when he didnt get the answers from them he wanted , he proceeded to call them sl*ts and b*tches. His father / my partner puts work as his first priority, not that he pays the bills as we all live at my property and i pay the house bills. Neither of the parents punish this kid or hold him accountable or anything. Im being disrespected in my own home yet get treated like the wicked witch when i bring these SERIOUS issues forward,, i cant take it anymore. The child has no remorse or empathy for anything and knows the difference between right & wrong, i have sourced out child psychologists ,counsellors etc but neither parent do anything about it and im so worried i have a child sociopath on our hands. This child has been given everything he wants and i feel the parents have done this because they feel guilty about their breakup (which happened when the kids was 2) Im at the point where the child is no longer welcome in my home as im uncomfortable and getting very worried he may hurt me or my pets. but that also means the end of my relationship as my partner gets so defensive ... lose / lose situation all round for me. Does anyone have any advice please ?????