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Court hearing question

FuBaR's picture

My hubby is due in court today for the final decision on child custody..But is refusing to go because he cant or doesnt want to get off work. Well we have had the children for sometime now, but Im afraid if he dont go we will lose them and Dogzilla will get them back or ask for more money..Anyone with any experience with the type of situation where one doesnt show up for court and what happens..Courts at 2pm today and Iam about to lose it..

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HummingBirdHunny's picture

You should tell him he could be held in contempt for not showing up, may even get a warrant out for his arrest. He needs to be there.

Last Nerve's picture

As longs as he has a lawyer who can appear for him (and the two of you trust the lawyer), they can represent him, and he doesn't have to be there. However, not showing up for family court may make the judge question your DH's intentions if he can't be bothered to be there...

IMO - he needs to be there.

Sita Tara's picture

I would call him right now and tell him that YOU are going. And if he doesn't show up he will be looking at some more time in court.

I would not at all put up with this Fubar. I can't believe he thinks he can no show. Not only contempt of court, but looks to the court as if he doesn't think his kids are a priority.

Does his lawyer know he's not coming?

"To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?" ~Hamlet Act III scene I

FuBaR's picture

I swear sometimes I wished they could lock both of them dumbasses behind bars for a few days..I would laugh my butt off then..But now somehow Im being the bitch and nagger for MAKING him as he says go to court..I didnt have those three kids with her, should be not my kids not my problem but its not the kids fault..Just frustrating I guess..

"The future's uncertain and the end is always near." Jim Morrison

FuBaR's picture

couldnt afford it at the time..I told him he was going and thats that..If he wasnt here at noon to pick me up, I WOULD NOT BE HERE WHEN HE GOT HOME..So I guess we will see..

"The future's uncertain and the end is always near." Jim Morrison

Last Nerve's picture

Is he curious about how a jail works, or perhaps he looking to be made some dude named Spike's bi*ch?? What the heck is he thinking??
He ABSOLUTELY needs to have his behind in that courtroom! He can't just NOT go to court, or not have representation.
If he isn't there at noon to pick you up, I would suggest going to his work place, hog-tying him, and dragging his sorry @ss to court.
Fubar, you've got patience my girl, if that were my DH, I probably would give him a taste of Cru's frying pan....

Sebbie's picture

I would rather be hated for who I am, then loved for who I am not.

Your dh has no representation and he wants to pull a no show to court where a final decison is being made by the judge in custody of the children? Big Mistake! The ex wife can make an amended request to be heard before the final judgement is rendered and will recieve it. At this time she can make a request for custody showing that if the children were truly that important your dh should be present and the judge will take this into consideration, depending on what other evidence the ex has presented to the court thus far. It might not warrant a change in the judges decision, but really do you want to risk that? On the flip side, if your dh does not feel it important enough to be present and as a result he loses custody of his children, than he has no one to blame but himself.

kaffonseca's picture

My FH got custody of SS5 because BM did not show up for the court date..the judge just gave him custody.
He should DEF.. go

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

LotusFlower's picture

BM didn't show up, and we got everything!!!....He has to go

"there are three sides to every story....your side, my side and the truth :)"

WowjustWow's picture

He HAS to go! This topic should not even have been open for debate with him. He's like .01 mile away from the finish line, if he doesn't show, he will F#&^ it all up!

Judges will NOT look kindly on not showing up to the FINAL custody hearing. And BM can certainly play the "well he doesn't care enough" card and get the boys.

Sometimes we just need to beat these men senseless.

I hope it all goes well girl! *hugs*

~ Formerly ToTheEdge. I have stepped down from the ledge.

Sita Tara's picture

It's 3:15, did DH go to court at 2????

"To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?" ~Hamlet Act III scene I

FuBaR's picture

and we got full and legal custody of the children..Shew I feel like choking him sometimes..And she now has to pay us 1195 a month in CS..Woot Woot...

Thank you all for your support and advice

"The future's uncertain and the end is always near." Jim Morrison

Last Nerve's picture

At Fubar's house!!
I love it when the good guys win! Way to go girl!

Now give your DH a swift kick for us, will ya? We were on edge all afternoon! lol...

Sita Tara's picture

Congratulations!

"To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?" ~Hamlet Act III scene I