well when hubby got home from work last night and once the little ones where in bed we talked over the situation with the invite and other matters and decided to decline the invite but instead of just saying no we emailed the brother and his fiance and told them how we currently feel about them and why and how it could be resolved the ball is now in their court to make amends. but hubby and i also discussed how i feel about his actions or lack there of when it comes to people dominating him in life and how he appears to be okay with being treaded like a door mat instead of standing his ground when pushed around. it felt good to air our grievences openly with out to much hostility but now the problem lies with whether or not he'll follow through on his words from last night i want to give him the benefit of the doubt but i guess only time will tell, he knows my terms so hopefully things will improve here on out.

sometimes it hurts to love someone so much and them being completely cluless to the fact that they are important to someone and that it does matter how they are treated.