Confrontation - evil step mom
I posted another link, am I such a bitch. After speaking to people I finally confronted him about his pain in the ass kid. We have had 3 days since he dismissed me over it and said I was been a dick. I can get him to understand that the rolling of eyes, face twisting, rudeness and constant questioning from his kid I’ve how much things cost, when and if I see my kids (I have two who live away) is driving me crazy. We are now in a fight again over the same thing, he says it’s just the way she is and is interested. However I disagree, I thought my kids to question people about the cost of something is rude, I don’t even talk about money with my other half. He has his bank acct, I have mine. I don’t know how else I can explain this to him for him to understand. I can’t keep doing this. I get we have different ways of bringing up kids but he should respect his boundaries and so should his kids.
No that point was made in my
No that point was made in my last call with him. I have told him he either respects my boundaries and he ensures that so do his kids or I leave! I think that a simple as I could make it for him. Honestly I couldn’t have made it any more clear .... could I ? :?
I don't even recognize what
I don't even recognize what DH is doing with his kids. It's his problem. I keep it out of my thinking.
It's a fight you will never win. Don't mention it to him, don't ask about his kids or the situation he is handling. You mentioned you keep your $$$$ separate; good for you.
Ignore it, go silent. Silence works wonders; he will begin coming around and see the problem for what it is, if you cease trying to point it out. I learned this and it became so easy to get back my own identity and not include his kids in my life. They are grown and history. Even when they were teens and lived under our roof, asking for $$$$ all the time, it wasn't my problem.
I love the peace of disengagement and my marriage is so easy now too.
Not that I like hearing his side of the story about his kids, but I ignore it all and don't ask.
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