I have tried but enough is enough
Hi new here, bit of advice needed as to if my sd8 behaviour is normal for her age or have I got issues to address! She visits us every other weekend and stays for the duration, we have always got on on ish she is a nervous anxious child and has always been shy. Met her dad wen she was 3, so have been in her life long enough for her to be used to me and our house. I have 2 other children and a baby of 10mths. She has always clinged to her dad which at first was understandable, now however is annoying the hell out of me. He blames it on her personality that’s just the way she is, but I know she isn’t. I have seen how assertive and clever she can be with my kids, and yet she can do no wrong in his eyes. So she’s follows him everywhere can I help u Daddyyyy, daddy do u like my hair, I love u daddy a million times at the most odd time is whilst we are watching tv. It’s become more unbearable since the birth of my daughter. She is obsessed with her, she follows me everywhere when I’m doin things when carrying the baby I’m am literally falling over her trying to get things done., she wants to play with her all the time if bio kids come to play she walks away sulking and goes straight to dad and will sit holding his hand starting at them. She draws pictures all the time and I’or the other kids are never included it’s her the new baby and bio Mum and dad. Which I have addressed with dad but he says she is young and has not spoke to her about them. She paints the perfect picture of herself and is terrified of doing anything wrong in front of dad. and so constantly trying to please her dad ( but not me) needs telling how great she is always after reassurance and attention, which again was ok at first but has now developed into an annnoying attention seeking thing from her dad. It’s starting to drive me nuts and I can’t stand to be in the same room as them.. If she’s here on her own with us she will not give us any space I tell her to go find something to do she shakes her head and stands waiting for her dad even if he’s usinf the bathroom. I’m sick of creeping around her for the fear of upsetting her . But the baby issue is really creeping me out she has to share a trim with baby as the boys have the other room, and I have told her of the baby wakes I will deal with her as I’m trying to get her to sleep through the night self soothe etc, but she’s up as soon as she hears her stirring which makes baby more awake as not used to havin someone sleep in the room.I know because I have heard her on the baby mointer, I think she is prob putting her soother in, I have told her not to but she pretends to be asleep when I go in to check the baby. I’ve overheard her talking to dad how it’s good the baby has the same name as her and not her stepbrothers, and how she’s glad she’s got a sister as she will like her more than brothers . Dad is completely oblivious and to be honest does not pay her much attention so has no clue what it going on. Wenever I show affection to her dad she’s straight copying me kissing dad telling him she loves him. She pushes me and my bio sons away and it’s so hard as she wants my baby and her dad to herself!!