Help! I spoke my mind and they weren't happy!
I'm young. Married a man 20 years older then me. We have our own son and everything was going fine. Then his two adult children moved in with a spouse. They were all strangers to me. Now because I don't see eye to eye with them and because I don't want them in my house anymore, I look like the jerk.
My husband has been more then supportive of me, because he sees how sloppy his daughter is and how his son can't hold a job.
Last night I spilled my heart to them on how I feel I have been treated. I read from a paper. I wasn't even allowed to get through it because once I read how I didn't understand why the 22ss couldn't get or hold a job, immediately he got in my face and said he was holding back from spitting on me and that I don't understand anything about him. I was harsh in my words, and my husband warned me not to say anything because they are leaving in 2 months. I should have held my tongue I guess. I am the type of person that likes to get out my thoughts and make sure everyone is on the same page. They went to their dad asking why I am rude and upset at times. So I thought I would tell them. I am upset, small house, a
22ss has no job, SD is sloppy, (leaves a mess every on everything she touchs)
They believe I only care about myself and they don't care to hear my thoughts or opinions.
I work, clean, and make sure the bills are paid.
I just want advice and understanding. I was wrong to be short with them in the time they lived here, idk. They said they were nothing but nice, which is true to extent, but they missed the point that I didn't want them to be nice. I wanted them to use us to get to the next point in their lives, not pay minimum rent while spending their money on frivolous things. I would rather they had a plan and moved out instead of waiting until their dad pushed them out. They could be nice and courteous, but if you don't have a job and bumming around the house, your efforts to be nice mean nothing to me.
The daughter pays her part and works, but she never asked to bring along her 3 cats and dog into my house. Even my husband didn't like that. Besides the mess she makes, I have no problem. I thought she would have moved out with her new husband much earlier, because why are newly weds living with their dad and step mom? She claims it is because she wants to connect better with her dad and my son, but she is independent and grown in her own eyes. So why can't she connect with him over daddy/daughter dates. They didnt have to stay under the same roof.
Maybe I am selfish in wanting my house back and being short with them. Why oh why did I have to open my mouth? They think I'm an idiot now for sure. I have a hard enough time getting my thoughts out as it is. I'm just lucky my husband sees where I am coming from. He made his son apologize for getting in my face and shouting.