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I'm Still Here - but it has been rough

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

As you know I had a bout with pneumonia, reaction to a BP medication I had been taking for years with no trouble, but it has been even worse. I started to have some female problems in mid Dec, went through a bunch of tests and got the results just before NY. I had cancer! Blew me away at first, but DD stepped in. I had the operation, the doc. believes the got it all because I was diagnosed early, but I still have to have some them nasty treatments JIC.

DD came for Christmas and came back to support DH when I had the operation. DD kept the Twit ghoul at bay though once, when they were at the house, Twit came by to see DH and apparently spent a lot of time looking around at things and actually opening drawers in the dining room and other areas of the house, until DD put a stop to it. Don't blame DH for being oblivious here, he was stressed, tired etc. because of my goings on, DD said. DD stopped Twit by confronting her and asking just what she was looking for. Twit told her she was just "looking around" and DD told her that there is nothing in the house that she has any rights to and would she kindly leave if she was finished "visiting" with her father. DD said she was starting to cry (gotta get DH's attention) but Twit stopped her in her tracks and told her to knock it off; her father didn't need any of her drama at this time, and she certainly had gall checking the house out while I had just had surgery.

Amazing, that cretin hears I am in the hospital with cancer and comes around snooping to see what she can get just like she did with that elderly neighbor. Twit is a bonafide ghoul.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Thanks for catching that typo. It should read: DD said she was starting to cry (gotta get DH's attention) but DD stopped her in her tracks and told her to knock it off; her father didn't need any of her drama at this time, and she certainly had gall checking the house out while I had just had surgery.

DD has no love or sympathy for the Twit and won't stand for any of her nonsense.

LONGTIME SM's picture

:jawdrop: I'm so sorry. How tasteless but so predictable. It's a shame our children will have to basically police their fathers and stepfathers to keep these greedy step gouls in check when they already have enough to deal with just checking on us! It's nauseating to think that this is our and our children's future.

sandye21's picture

Oh, it is SOOOO good to hear from you!!! We were a bit worried. So sorry to hear about the cancer but glad they caught it. Also very happy DD is watching out for you but you do not need any of this Twit drama in your life right now. Just wondering if it is time to get a court order to keep Twit Ghoul out of your house all together.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Thank you. I still have the stitches, of course, and get tired. Before DD left she got someone to come in (professional) and help out with me, the cleaning, cooking, etc. DD is a take charge person....I raised her right Smile She also told her that under no circumstances is the Twit to be allowed in the house.

I just want to say, ladies, many of us here are, shall we say, above a certain age. If you have any kind of abnormal bleeding check it out ASAP! Uterine cancer can be sneaky. The Lord was looking out for me and I thank Him.

DD also had a talk with DH about keeping the stress and drama of the Twit away from me as I recover. He is on track with that, but who knows.

My other two steps who live far away, called, sent me flowers and get well cards. Nadda from Twit except to show up checking the house out for what she wants if something happens to me.

sandye21's picture

"My other two steps who live far away, called, sent me flowers and get well cards. Nadda from Twit except to show up checking the house out for what she wants if something happens to me." Twit lives a short way down the road and did not even offer to help?!!! Not even a card or get well wish?!! Have to say Twit is just AMAZING!!! But more than I had imagined. Your DD is a GEM. Thank goodness you have her on your side. Can not imagine what it would be like for you otherwise. Still think there should be a court order for Twit to stay away. (((HUGS)))

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

" Twit lives a short way down the road and did not even offer to help?!!! Not even a card or get well wish?!! Have to say Twit is just AMAZING!!! But more than I had imagined."

I'm not surprised at all. That is just typical Twit. The only time she surfaces is when she wants something, watch her drunkie, watch her dogs, wanna go in on an RV with us....which translates to you buy it and we will use it. Twit is all about Twit, she has no empathy or concern for anyone other than her "babies". Twit only helps out when there is something in it for her, like being nice to the heirs ofthat old man who died a few months back so she could try to get into the house and get things for FREE. The term ghoul fits her right on. Heck, if she any family member was buried with jewelry she would probably dig up their grave to get it....a real grave digger for sure.

DD said when she was here, DD was telling her how stressed out DH was feeling, tired etc. to which Twit responded that HER father was just fine, that DD didn't know what she was talking about and if he was stressed it was MY FAULT! Imagine! DD said it was hard to keep from grabbing her by the neck and throwing her out the door. DD said I have to be a saint not to have throttled that cretin years ago, which made me laugh.

notasm3's picture

So glad to hear from you too. Sorry for the new health issues. But from someone who's been there you will feel better. I have not had cancer, but I've had 3 other seriously life threatening events (even on life support for week) you can get better.

I've had so many friends who have had cancer - mostly breast cancer. And every one of them is doing great now - some as long as 20 years later after having sometimes 3 different types of breast cancer. Nobody likes to hear the word cancer - but it is not a death sentence by any means.

Twit needs to drop off the face of the earth.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

I'm so very glad you've checked in!

Sympathies to you for your health issues. It sounds as if your doctor caught it early, thank goodness. Does this mean you'll be delaying your move? And Brava! to your daughter for putting twit in her place. Such nerve! How did twit find out you were ill? I thought your DH had put his relationship with her in the "Ignore" box.

Please take the greatest care of yourself, SDM. We are all sending warm thoughts and prayers your way.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Yes, it means we won't be able to go looking for houses until I am well. I do have great doctors - my GP caught it and he is so nice, he spent a lot of time helping me to understand what would happen, got me in with a great surgeon, and explained a lot of things to DH.

hatesteplife's picture

Glad they caught that cancer and hope it's gone. Glad you have a great DD! I worry about those of us with asshole skids and no bio kids of our own to save us.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Amazing! - DH was telling me this morning that the Drunkie is back living at Twit's and...get this....she has given him one of their cars to drive as he has a "hardship license" to get back and forth to work.

I told DH that was HER problem and I didn't want to hear about it. I have enough on my plate right now. But did add that I didn't want her ringing my phone off the hook when he gets in another accident, etc.

He agreed, he was just hoping someone would put the brakes on the Drunkie so he has to really take responsibility for his actions...seeing the young man go down the addiction path saddens DH but he knows until he hits bottom where no one helps him out, enables him, nothing is going to change and Mama Twit is a big enabler.

sammigirl's picture

I was just thinking about you today; glad to know what is going on with you. Stress is the worst thing for you right now or ever again.

I finally had to cut my SD55 off completely. SD was causing me so much stress it was making me physically ill, not to mention crazy.

I sat down with DH and quote: "I want SD55 and SGD30 (mother/daughter) to leave me alone; I don't know what it will take, maybe a Court ordered restraining order. This will put strain on Son-in-law's employment (he is a law enforcement officer here). So if these women do not stay away from me and leave me alone, it will come to a Court Order. This, DH, is a promise, not a threat. You (DH) know I will do it, because I placed such an order on you (DH)."

Now, I mean exactly what I say. If they step foot on our property and cause one more moment of stress for me; or if I find out they are slandering me again, I will go into action. Promise!

I am to the point I don't care what anyone thinks or says, as long as it stays out of my sight and I don't hear about it. I really believe the day will come when I have to file a Court Ordered Restraining order against my SD; she never stops.

You need to take care of yourself and sometimes the end of your rope finally comes. My SD had better never go through my house and I find out. I have enough documentation to have her arrested on such grounds.

I am not a forgiving person and I never forget the betrayal from my DH to SD, which almost cost us our marriage; DH's fault. It was a drastic move that I didn't see coming; I just got in my car one afternoon and went directly to the Court and filed the papers. I was so scared and afraid the Judge wouldn't sign the order; but I had several mental abuse reasons and it put everyone in their place and brought things to a quiet stage, for now. It has been almost a year; we are doing much better.

Results: Since Court order there has been order in our home, peace, and very little SD these days (SD lives less than 5 minutes from us).

((((hugs)))))

20YearsAsAStep-Mom's picture

Nice to hear from you and glad you are recovering.

good thing your DD was there to intervene with Twit. She probably would have taken things if DD wasn't watching her. She really has no business going through your things! What a rude witch.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

No doubt she would have walked out with a lot. That is her mode of operation....anything she can get for FREE. Her Father-In-Law had a garage sale several years back, Twit went over there and pretty much took anything that had value. Her Sister-in-Law told her she should give him something for all the items, but she didn't. She actually had the audacity to laugh and was proud of herself in telling DH and I this! It was "Look what I got for FREE". AND, what she really didn't want she sold at a garage sale - Twit will make a buck every chance she gets, as she use to tell me....she is SO SMART.

When her FIL passed, his daughter collected all the keys to his house at the hospital (so no one would be able to have one made up, no doubt - probably had Twit in mind). Twit cried to DH how she offered to help the daughter clean the house and go through stuff, but she was refused....cut out as Twit put it. Hey, the daughter saw the Twit's sticky fingers at the garage sale earlier and has probably had her number for a long time. They had an auction which teed Twit off because she thought "family" (meaning her) should get what they wanted. Heck, if that happened there would be very, very little left because whether Twit really wanted it or not, if she could sell it and make a buck on it she would take it. That is just how she is. Greedy.