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Dh finally called his estranged daughter as he had not gotten any responses to his emails regarding proof of payment by his ex of college tuition. Mind you, he is paying over 15 k year in child support and college tuition for a 21 year old that has thrown him under the bus for the past 5 years.
She told him the reason they don't have a relationship is because of the way he has treated her. IMHO, the real reason is because she didn't like her doting father getting married.
Last year, dh's parents turned over trust fund money to his daughters, although account was actually in oldest daughter's name only. They asked that the money be split.
Last night daughter had the audacity to tell her father that the money was a gift from her sister! He exploded like I have never seen before yelling where did your sister get the money? I thought he was going to stroke out.
At this point I think he needs to see the attorney and get this 21 year old child off his payroll. Enough is enough.
I hear what step aside has mentioned about disinterested fathers, but the irony is that my dh did everything for his girls while ex was off having one affair after the next. Now she is enmeshed with her girls and dh is only an ATM.

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Well at this point he has to get a court order ending the bull$&@&. Who knows how much it will cost if they balk at cutting the final tie to him?
You know, it is one thing to be estranged, but to demand payment year after year from someone you want nothing to do with, is just so despicable and in my mind they are like prostitutes. God help the men they will have children with.....the same cycle will perpetuate itself over the generations. It already gas in their family of female manipulators and cast aside fathers.

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I was incorrect in using trust fund terminology. It was a custodial acct with her sisters name only. However, grandparents had it set up with their children to split the money among all the grand kids. So for this SD to turn around and say it was a gift from her sister was really a slap in the face to dh and his parents. The money was given to the girls even though they have been estranged for several years. Grandparents even had them in their home for dinner and gave them the bank book.
It was not a wild amount of money, but significant nonetheless. I think there is nothing left at this point between dh and his daughters. Best to sever the money tie and move on.