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Fiances son &daughter&grandbaby r coming!

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Fiance just told me his son wants to come for new years.
I moved into Fiances house 3 years ago, Son moved away to his BioMom's my daughter moved into his bedroom. Im feeling really uncomfortable with his son coming for a week and that my daughter has taken his room. I wanted to mOve my daughter out of her room for the week that Fiances son is coming, Fiance says no its not fair to my daughter.
Fiances daughter may come he is going to ask her if she wants to come for a week too (with baby),
It will be my daughters birthday when Son gets here.
Its 2 months away and I am so stressing already.
I think I am feeling like this isn't our home when Skids get here. I think I am feeling like we will be the guests in our own home. I think I am feeling jealous? Not jealous for me but with regards to my own kids as Son asks to
Come visit and he gets his flight paid for (trip) and the Daughter and baby will get their flights paid for. My kids wont get that big of a Christmas present from my fiance, and how he caters to their every need. My daughter moved into the bedroom and Fiance still hasnt fixed the repairs needed to the bedroom or bathroom for my daighter yet now is going to renovate the other rooms to accomodate his kids visits!
anyone have any opinions or input?
Why does SOn all of a sudden want to visit? He never ever talks to me or my kids since he left and he lived here for the 3 years that we did. He is estranged from his dad and rarely communicates with him.
The daughter is on welfare and always pinening at Fiance for money.
Son is 18 and doesnt work either!

canadiangirl3's picture

I think what bothers me the most is that neither the son or the daughter work yet they get anything they ask dear dad for!
And they are so ungrateful they just expect it!
My gut is telling me there is a motive to this visit.

canadiangirl3's picture

Thank you!
i am my own worst enemy i admit it, i over think things and waste my time doing so. I need to figure out how not to worry. I need to let go of the "fear" the fear that I will get hurt or my kids will get hurt (emotionally) and understand although that is a very good possibilty I will survive and carry on and it wont change me, it wont change who I am as a person therefore it wont affect my children or create the same (unhealthy) behaviours in my own children's lives.
i need to practice letting go , i cannot control the way other people behave and they shouldnt be able to control me unless I allow that.