Amazing Book on Borderline Personality Disorder
When we brought the skids to a therapist, and she witnessed the overdramatic reactions of BM, she said it's likely she suffers BPD. among other things. She doesn't know for sure, and we're still awaiting the results of the psychiatric evaluation to find out for sure.
In any case, here is the book:
Understanding this bizarre personality disorder is very helpful in understanding how to deal with it, because it will NEVER go away. It will never get better, and you will never be able to do anything correct in her eyes. This book is very helpful in learning how to cope and handle people with this disorder.
Another book DH and I found VERY helpful was: Stepfamilies: Love, Marriage and Parenting in the first decade. It is really helpful in understanding what type of family you've developed, and the best ways to cope with issues that we know all too well.
I posted these because I found these books amazing, and I think everyone should read them who is experiencing the difficult issues we are. On a side note, I just want to say how thankful I am for this forum, because there are so little resources and support out there for step-families, and these problems are very real. Thanks everyone! I look forward to helping, reading, listening and venting with you!!