Hi everyone, I am new here and found this forum while searching for info on my family issues. I have 2 biological sons ages 6 & 8. They are typical boys who do sports, music, and are well liked at school and by my friends. Of course they are kids and sometimes need discipline, but we have no major issues. I also have an autistic 9 year old step son and a 7 year old step daughter. The main issue I have right now is that I feel at the end of my rope with my step son. The step kids live with us every other week, so we have them 50% of the time. My husband works full time and I have the kids after school for a few hours until he gets home. My step son is extremely physically and verbally aggressive and I have tried to help this for a long time and am simply done with it. I don't mind the incessant clapping, humming, and other autism stuff too much, but the constant defiance, disrespect and opposition is just unbearable. A typical day with him is filled with threats and aggression. If I say "please pick up your toy" the answer I get from him is "shut your fucking mouth", or "you need to get out of this house", or "shut it", etc. nothing nice ever comes out of his mouth, and at times he has thrown things at me, scratched me, hit me, etc. He also treats my kids this way reason why I don't allow him in my kids rooms or near them often. My husband doesn't really do anythjng other than "buddy don't talk that way" and just showers him with gifts and attention. My step daughter also needs discipline but gets put on a pedestal all the time because she seems perfect next to her brother. I'm just tired of living around so much physical and verbal aggression from a 9 year old. It's unhealthy and a bad example to my kids. He gets ABA therapy 4 days a week and I see no improvement. I feel bad for saying this but after so much effort and therapies with no results I don't have much hope for him. I'm tired if watching him in the afternoons and I'm tired of taking so much crap from him. I do not believe an alternative care situation can be found . No daycare or nanny wants to deal with this, and his mom is useless on her off weeks. What to do..